Wednesday, May 27, 2009

New Pet Peeve

You know what really bugs me? When people say that boys are so much easier than girls or how they would rather have a boy because "you have to worry about girls getting pregnant." I think if I hear that one more time I might scream! 

Obviously, I wouldn't want my daughter(s) to be sexually promiscuous, but I wouldn't want that for my sons either. I'm actually excited about being able to teach Annabel about what it means to be a woman and to be feminine, as well as to have a healthy view of sexuality. 

I'm tired of people talking about my daughter's sexuality- scratch that-  women's sexuality as though it were a liability! Why can't we embrace the fact that we are all sexual beings and celebrate that rather than fear it?

Recently, in a class, we were discussing how we, the women in the class, were taught about our femininity and what messages were taught to us about our sexuality as young women. It was such an interesting discussion, and it really got me thinking about this subject. As the mother of a little girl, this is something that is especially dear to my heart. In a society that is so sex-driven and explicit, how will I raise this child to be confident in her femininity and sexuality, while at the same time protecting her sweet, girlish innocence?

I think one place that we as Christians go wrong is that we fail to integrate any positive aspects of sexuality when educating our children. From what I've observed, we tend to preach only "wait, wait, wait," and "modesty, modesty" while failing to recognize that sexuality is a healthy, positive part of the human experience. And- gasp- dare I say it? Is it possible that we are sexual beings even before we are married? No, that can't be. I can't believe the thought even crossed my mind. 

Anyway, if you are the parents of boys, or not yet a parent, please do not say to us mothers of girls that we "have our work cut out for us." I think we know that anyway. But just because my child had the misfortune to be born with a vagina does not mean that she will end up with her own child before she is out of high school! 


Tera said...

Can I voice my opinion? :) As another Christian parent, I'm already praying for my daughters' purity and for them to meet Godly men to marry. And in the meantime, I am going to teach them about sexuality, but also about being modest and pure.

Paula said...

Can I just say as the mother of sons.... It takes two to tango. And anyone who would say that having boys is better, or easier than having girls just doesn't get it. (Don't get me wrong, I LOVE my boys, and I'm proud to say that they are find young men.) Do they think our boys are lusting after every girl just because they have a - *GASP* dare I say it PENIS - ??? PLEASE. It takes just as much energy and time and parenting skill to teach a young boy to be honorable and keep it in his pants as it does to teach a young girl to not put themselves on display, to dress modestly, and to keep their legs together.

If more parents were teaching their kids these things - girls and boys alike - then WHO KNOWS?? Maybe we could begin to see a drastic reduction in the unwed/teen pregnancy statistics. Hmm... MAYBE just MAYBE we would see healthier relationships begin to build because our kids would be focused on something other than the physical aspect of a relationship. PERHAPS we would see our kids getting married and actually staying in that marriage rather than it failing when the 'lust' was satisfied and the 'grass appeared to be greener' somewhere else.

So, I guess I'd like to just say this... Can we make this issue about something besides a girl/boy thing and make it about the parents who should be teaching their kids? It's about parenting..... not the gender of the child. (Lynsey, Next time someone says that to you, tell them they need to go home and rethink not only about how rude and mean-spiriter their comments are, but also about their own parenting skills as well!!)

I pray that Caleb will meet a Godly woman - whose been raised by a Godly momma who taught her daughter about purity and modesty in a healthy sort of way. (By the way, I prayed the same thing for Nate, and God provided a very wonderful young lady for him to spend the rest of his life with!)

And NOW after I re-read my comments, I realize I was on a pretty good rant. Must be the 'McCammon' in me, huh?

Paige said...

wow, i don't read your blog for a while and I miss the sex talk!! Enjoyed reading...thanks for your boldness!